Larry Mullins

June 10, 2009

What Self-Actualizers DON’T Have

Filed under: Basics of MetaValues,psychology,values — Tags: , , , , — LarryMullins @ 3:51 pm

Early on, Dr. Maslow uncovered three attitudes that are unique to Self-Actualizers and potential Self-Actualizers. When he began his studies, Maslow accepted the conventional wisdom that it is natural for most people in our culture to feel unwarranted guilt, crippling shame, and stressful anxiety. As he studied Self-Actualizers, though, he detected that they were relatively free of this baggage. Over time, they developed an attitude of impregnable self-respect. This self-respect was not overbearing or narcissistic, but rather balanced by an equal degree of respect for other people.
How does such extraordinary self-respect evolve? Self-Actualizers are able to endure challenges to their self-worth because they believe that there is a higher, more effective version of themselves to actualize—a more fully developed model. Self-Actualizers sense, in a matter-of-fact way, that there is greatness within them. Most of us share an intuitive belief that we have a higher, better self within. However, the majority of us feel we can’t access this self. We believe that, if there was a time when we could have become the best versions of ourselves, that time has passed. We beat ourselves up for our failures. We exaggerate the losses and minimize the wins. We accept that we have limitations. In doing so, we lose the self-respect necessary to release our inner power. The first part of the secret, then, is to restore the natural, innocent self-respect we had as children while also increasing to an equal degree the respect we have for other people.

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