Larry Mullins

June 16, 2009

Instantly Become a New Person

The second part of the “secret” is a precious attitude that Maslow uncovered in Self-Actualizers: they assume a nonnegotiable responsibility for the inner life experience. Again, most of us don’t have this attitude. For instance, how often do you say things like, “He makes me angry”? How often do you hold resentments about past injustices? How often do you rehash them? What Maslow saw in Self-Actualizers is that they refused to see themselves as victims, regardless of their circumstances. They perceived their lives as their own and understood that, while they did not have absolute control of their fates, they had absolute control over how they felt about their fates. They understood that we cannot control what others may do or say—but we have total control over our attitudes and responses.

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